Had a big day Friday with work colleagues and so took it easy Saturday reading and lounging around. It was so enjoyable and so restful!
S left for his trip today and then he'll be back home for Christmas. YAY!!
One of the books I've been reading is 'Why is God laughing?' which is deepak Chopra. I found it difficult to get into it but kept at it as it was highly recommended by a friend. Anyway I persisted with my reading, looking for the little gem I was supposed to get out of it.
It mentioned divorce and how in the beginning we are so pleased with everything our partners do and it is only when we begin to criticise that cracks appear. Got me thinking...... in a new relationship if the guy doesn't visit/call we note it but we certainly don't 'have a go.' That made me realise I was wrong. I had an expectation that H should show he cares by calling/texting. By being critical H thought, " Here we go again. She's criticising. I can't get anything right. Now I'm feeling useless."
Now add to this Sanderika's perception. The scene is then like this;
Cas is having surgery. I don't know what's wrong with her since she didn't tell me. She doesn't want me to know. I'll just check with D to see how she's going and then I'm not intruding.
Then if I think further about what Sanderika has to say.....
Cas has a great job. H sells his business and he looks for a job. He puts in so many applications but he finds it difficult to get permanent work. Cas applies for another job, the only one she's applied for in 5 years and she gets it.
H recently told Cas how capable she was at her work and in her studies. He thinks she's pretty smart. Although Cas denies this and says she is no different to H, he is not convinced. (Cas knows H has the best business brain, and is financially very savvy while she is a dud at anything mathematical).
Cas is setting herself up for another work promotion. She might move to secure the job she wants but she is a little fussy. She can wait until the right job comes along and she can make sure it fits in with D and her studies and sport. H is feeling the strain financially and he might have to move to another city to get work. He really doesn't want to. He'll miss his D.
And if I think more about that...... H always responds positively when I ask him to help....it's cos I ask him to do things he can succeed with.
Lots more learning happening for Cas.
Thnaks GAG and Sanderika.
On this occasion I think you've hit the nail on the head Sanderika!
