H in crisis and self medicating with OW

[AntoniaB]

This is the first I read about your situation and I guess I'd say that I think it's good that he is seeking help for depression and such, but that you still need to do what you can to protect yourself financially. My H is NOT seeking help for depression and I still believe it's a major issue with him. We will be divorced in a few weeks. I want him back, and I miss him terribly, but I also know that this may not ever be a possibility, so I am going to refinance the house to be able to pay it off and pay out his equity. If he "comes to his senses" at some point, so be it. I'm not going to be financially strapped because he is out there "finding himself."

So I guess I would say that I understand the confusion you feel if he is in the picture/out of the picture in any way with you--but please just take care of yourself. You can't be the one to pull that marriage back together if you've fallen apart--should he want to come back. And if he doesn't, then you can't move on if you don't take care of yourself. Best of luck!!!