Starting again...

[gutwrenching]

To answer your question, no not really on the IC. W saw IC years and years ago about some non-marital issues, not at all relevant to any of what we are going through.

However, tonight she said to me how about you find that good C you said you could find and lets go from there and then thanked me for being patient with her.

This after a pretty hard day for me. I gave her a tone of space, she was still depressed and in her own world, we hardly spoke at all most of the day.