Thank you awest for you perspective. My sitch is complicated by the fact that my h is also a teacher and his ap is a teacher at his school. My school and his school are about 10 miles from each other, but there are a lot of connections between the two schools. Two of my staff members have kids who go to his school. One of these staff members has a daughter in his class. Many of my former "families" have transferred to his school for the middle school, so there are many families who know us both and have even had us both as teachers. He is a very respected teacher, so it is hard to know how this will affect his reputation, but so am I. I definitely think people will take sides, whether I choose to tell about the affair or not. I think there are people who would just refuse to believe that he is capable of it. It is all so uncomfortable. I have kept it quiet for fear that he would lose his job, and to avoid the uncomfortableness of it all. But what is most frustrating to me is that he continues to have a relationship with her. He thinks that he can get away with that w/o people finding out, but tells me that if I tell anyone he will lose his job. It is all so crazy!!!
