MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

Set back!!!!

This AM when we woke up H started to talk to me about our credit card debt (barely any to tell the truth), our financial bind - OK, we have 2 houses, our rental doesn't make enough to cover mortgage, and we have no savings, but again, we make enough to pay everything. He starts blaming me all over again for our situation, for causing him to have MLC, he even hinted that I bought the house to bind his freedom, so he cannot do his stuff (mainly hunting)!!!! which relly blindsided me as I am not that devious!!!!! I had a meltdown.

I defended myself. I cried and told him its just money, we should get down on our knees and pray and thank the Lord we are healthy, that we have jobs. I told him that we could sell both houses, I don't care if we are poor, as long as we are together. he said too late for all that.

At this point, I just want OUT. But like Pickle, I don't want to be the bad guy. I almost want him to say it so I could agree.

But again, if I do, he might just go back to OW and I don't relish that idea. Plus I don't want to regret anything later on.

I am thinking, is it just his MLC? Was the OW break up premature? Is it because he is miserable and he has seen me being so happy that he is trying to drag me down to his level of misery? Is he looking for justifications to try to go back to OW? Or to prove his original statement that it was not OW that made him think of leaving n the first place?

Maybe it is real.... he just hates me at this point? I am in one of those hating moods too. have been the whole day. don't like it, I am trying to go back to my happy mood but can't.