I indeed proud of you, Pickle! That is a big step in losing that anger. Its good that you told her about not hating her, takes away one of her weapons against you.

I will not push you about the boundaries because I hve to admit that is my weakness too.

I on the other hand had a huge setback today. I will post in my thread. This time it will be your turn to advise me.

My thinking is clouded today, but what I see in you W is confusion, which can be good, as she is on the fence somehow, but is more in OMs side at this point. You have a lot of work to pull her in.

But caution: sometimes, when W is happy, that is because OM said or did something to make her happy. I have learned that with my H. He used to treat me better when he still had OW.

I think using the "being the good guy" guidelines is the best, remember that inj the end, if all goes wrong, you have to protect yourself and the kids.

Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go