Hope it's not too late

[sandi2]

To be completely honest, I believe a WAW would need to come here and read the advise out of her own free will....and no suggestions from her H. If my H had tried to get me to come here....I would have never read a single post. But since he had nothing to do with it, I did not feel pressured.

I did feel like the minority in this community, b/c I quickly saw that most of the members were WAS. But that did not discourage me at all.

My reaction to reading Michele's WAW Syndrome was like finding somebody who "understood" how I felt. I did identify with what I read. It was like looking in a mirror. I think that is why it helped b/c I was open to it.

Being different......yes, I felt my stitch was somewhat different in the beginning, but over time I have seen others come here that were going through similar things. It's not just young couples who are raising families who are faced with these problems. There are people who have been M for a long time who go down this road.

I'm not sure how to tell how I processed what I read. I welcomed the advise, for the most part. I didn't want to do some of the things that were suggested and I didn't like it if someone tried to pressure me to do it "their way". I didn't want to be pushed. When anyone suggested that I try certain things(like be sexual) with my H, I wasn't to receptive to that. I had to go slow.

One thing that was difficult would be to see the really bad stuff that the people would say about WAW's. But OTOH, it was through these posts from LBS's that I began to see the raw pain that was there. They actually helped me to see what I had done to my own H better than he had.

I consider myself one of the very blessed....who found the road to DB.