I think you are right about the mediator. I don't think she wants to be the one to end it on her own. She uses the excuse that the traditional route is more expensive but I think she just doesn't want to take the responsibility for ending it. I told her I am not going to a mediator and I am not paying for her to go to one (Let the OM foot the bill) You right, I will have to talk to my lawyer about the kids issue before divorce. In this state after divorce, the primary caregiver ie W, gets physical custody while we would share joint legal custody, regardless of what took place during the marriage.
