Think OW is here in my house right now!

[aflowergurlie]

Well, I just wanted to post the concluding outcome to my divorce-busting sitch. In my case, it turned out to be divorce finalized, and the very best thing in the world for me.

I was hired as a temp in a full-time job in April with a huge hospital network in my area. I ended up living in the rental house by myself, with H paying for everything there, until end of May. In June, I moved into a little 1-bedroom apartment, that I have all to myself (no memories of XH with me here). In July, I was hired on directly through my employer. In August, I received a promotion and a raise. In September, our divorce was finalized - I got all of our household possessions, all of his 401k, and monthly alimony for a year. All through this past year I have made countless new friends, including one best friend, and more support and love than I could ever imagine. I am busy, re-connected, and plugged back into life again.

Re-reading through the past year and all that happened, it still seems surreal. But I am truly grateful to be on the other side now, with a world full of opportunity and possibility that I embrace each day. Not saying there still aren't bad days and lows that I experience, but they are just easier to manage and accept and tell myself that "hey, it's ok to feel this way, and tomorrow's another day". The belief in myself, that I am good enough, that I am worthy enough, and totally deserving of a terrifically, wonderful, completely honest, faithful, committed, and valued relationship builds and gets stronger within me every day.

To all those who are experiencing so much grief and turmoil right now - In whatever outcome your particular sitch takes, I wish you peace and the notion that it will be better for you. It does get better.

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