I'm taking the kids away for the night to goto a Christmas party away from town. My W is scheduled to work tonight and tomorrow night. She's out with the kids right now, and just over an hour ago my W's work called to ask her if she can work tonight?!?!?!
She's supposed to be already working!?!?
Now obviously because I'm taking the kids away tonight I'm in full panic. She'll be home around in a couple hours, and I'm trying to think about how I'm going to address it.
I have to tell her that her work called, and she knows that I think she's already working tonight. Do I call her on it? Ask her to explain or should I stop jumping to conclusions and expecting the worst that she's got "other plans" tonight that she didn't want me to know about??
How would any of you deal with this sitch? My W has told me on a number of occasions that there isn't anyone else (but would she have really told me even if there was?!?), but like I've said based on so many other lives of read about on this board I was concerned that there might be a EA that either was intentional or unintentional likely with someone from work (that's really the only place so goes outside of the house without the kids).
I really hope I'm just over reacting and that it's simply some sort of mix up with her work.
The last few days I've been just focusing on being positive, only talking when she talks and simply validating what she says. Last night and this morning have been great.
I went out with my friends and she went out shopping, I had a good time. This morning she did ask me if I "met any girls while I was out" and I simple said "no, I didn't" which is the truth. I wasn't looking anyways.
I also went directly (via e-mail) to my mother and told her that she has caused a lot of tension in my M and that I think it order to get based it, she needs to find it in herself to appoligize to my W. Needless to say she replied back, and completely avoided what I said. Simply told me to stay strong, be happy and good times will come again. I think she feels good that my M might be coming to an end.
I'm so confused right now - still focused and looking fowarded to taking the kids out tonight.
I really don't want to ruin the night for me or the kids because I'm worrying what my W is doing back home - if she isn't working.
She looks so good today too...which I told her. Just a simple compliment and she ignored it.
Thanks for listening/reading...
SIC
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
