Working on acceptance and forgiveness

[irishblessings]

Antonia...
I don't think you were too graphic at all and it is not spoken of often here. I basically think the reason comes down to "cart before the horse" if you will. Commitment, care, love, etc. is the core of marital intimacy. Without it...the physical is just that...the physical. We have all lost that core and while of course we miss the physical contact just as we miss any "moments" we may have had in our relationship - I think many of us, at least I know I do, don't just want pieces back - I want the foundation.
You are amazing and you deserve the life YOU want. I would not judge ANY decision you made because I believe only you know your situation and I respect the fact that you have come to this board and have really made effort to process through these decisions.
IB