I don't plan on moving out. If she wants to take the kids and move in with the OM that is fine although I will miss the kids (nothing I can do to stop her there).
Why do you think that you can't keep your children at home if that's what you want to do? It sounds like you may need to seek some legal advice just to be informed of your options. By the way, it seems like she is pushing for the mediator because she wants you to pay for the D and it will seem like more of a mutal decision in mediation. You don't have to agree to it. Find out how you can protect yourself and your kids.
