No worries. I think what she really means is that I am not good at generating attraction. That and early in the marriage was big learning curve sexually due to my relative lack of experience compared to her. Sometimes she has said that she has felt that I was raw clay and that she is tired of forming me into the finished product! I am really only trully beginning to understand the indirect (female) communication she uses as opposed to the direct communication style I live and work with. Makes knowing what is true and untrue difficult. I do agree that the open marriage idea is most often a failure though.
