AB whatever you do, don't make a decision while you are emotional. I always found if I sat on something for a few days my feelings or emotional side of me no longer found that decision important any longer.

I always tried to go with what my heart was telling me and prayed for guidance. My h was a cake eater for years. He denied having an ow, all though I suspected he did. We stayed close friends and lovers throughout his crisis. In retrospect not sure if cake eating was right, but it did keep us close and he ultimately returned.

What is your heart telling you to do?


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"