XH is marrying OW after only 5 months of D!!

[BeingMe]

The irony is that she now travels a lot for her job whilst he stays at home (as I did for most of my marriage), I guess he is also scared that she will cheat on him.

It seems he now has the role you played in your M ... maybe he will eventually know what it felt like. This OW is nasty, just like he was, and there will come a time (if there is any justice in the universe) where the fantasy will end. Who knows what she will do? If she can cheat with him, she certainly has the ability to cheat on him. And the same for him.

Hey, I'm from SA too.

Your question about why you weren't good enough to fight for .... you are, but he is blinded by his own "awesomeness" (picture me with my finger down my throat) and OW's "financial wealth" (gag). Who, may I ask, is the greedy one now? At least, you worked too, and the mother of his children.

I would be tempted to reply to one of her emails where she talks about being the boy's stepcheating-mother ... "you may possibly come to be their SM, but at the time XH and I created our sons, it was wonderful making love within the realms of a true marriage, ordained by God, and knowing we would be making a family. You can never know that feeling, only the destruction of XH's family, which he was certainly a party to, but you can never, ever replace me. I will always be his first wife, his first chosen, the mother of our children. You will always be a carbon copy at best."

Perhaps not send, but know that that is who she is. Insignificant!

Take care.