"He says that I don't know how to love him and he doesn't know how to love me. He says we are never on the same page and don't even seem to have the same values. He says he only married me because I got pregnant with our children. He says that he isn't in love with me. He says we are too different. I know he is looking for every single wrong he can to justify leaving."
So.. I think you just said.. You are smarter than him?
Did God give you that talent?
Or.. did you just learn it all on your own? *
No, I don't think I am smarter than him. (Some of my post was edited.) I just believe he is looking for all the negative stuff he can in our relationship. That's all. However, after reading the DR/DB book it did say the spouse who wants to leave will look to all that is wrong in a marriage.
I asked him what specific complaints he had about me. I haven't had a responce yet. I asked for them via e-mail so that he would have to write them out.
In my opinion, what he is missing is really no different in what I am missing. There is a lack of communication, lack of respect, forgivenss from past hearts that were not reconciled and not making the other feel important. Its all a build up from our past,and miss-understandings about marriage/relationships. At least according to the DB/DR books.
In order for these things to go away, we certainly need to show our love and appreciation through the LL. Mine is words of affirmation and gifts. His LL is physical touch and quality time. Also, if we spent some time learning the truth about marriage, communication and forgiveness I believe our marriage wouldn't have ended up here. We need to listen and respect eachothers' opinions and work at finding resolutions together, instead of giving up. This alone is just for starters.
M = 10.5 years H = 35 W = 39 D = 10 S = 12 SD = 19 Bomb Dropped = 10/27 EA = April
