Then once you have been doing this so much it becomes part of you. You start not hating, but really loving, unconditionally, without expectations. YOur prayers become sincere, and thats when they will be heard. YOu start looking into yourself and understanding the interaction between you and her.
I remember once my H asked me how therapy helped me, and I did not know what to say. Me, a very verbal person, lost for words? I realized then that I had become so used to STFU that it had become a part of me.
Once they get back to normal, there will be all the time in the world for explanations, for questions, etc. Thats how I see it. But for now, keep your goal in mind, which is to save the M.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
