Does anyone have any advice? I'm kinda piecing cause she is choosing to stay even though she is unsure of her feelings.
Keep in mind that I have been reading this board for a while, read DR and trying to adhere to the tactics.
Since she has decided to try and make things work how should I proceed?
You should stop doing what doesn't work. Stop bringing up 'if you're still in contact with the OM blah blah blah.' If you already set the boundary then be careful you are not harping on it and placing a spotlight on something that isn't exactly a positive.
What behaviors about yourself are you focused on changing where gaining a response from her is not the motive?
What exactly do you want from your wife and why are you seeking to motivate her to act in some certain way?
Since you asked I would highly recommend focusing on GAL and 180's and over time see what transpires.
