It is quite hard to detach when H is still around a lot. But it IS possible. The most important thing is to NOT focus on H. You MUST focus on you. You must become your own "whole" person. I think right now, you still "need" to have someone there to make you feel whole. This is unhealthy because our happiness and feeling of "wholeness" has to come from us. The psychology crowd calls this differentiation. I tried to find a good link to explain it, and found a fairly good one. I hope the link works. It is written (I guess) for an audience of therapists because at the end, it talks about client/patient relationships, but the bulk of the article is really good. Differentiation
My H was around a lot because of D and it makes it hard to detach. Take advantage of the days apart and use them to focus hard on yourself. I know you know this, it just always sounds easier than it really is. But it makes all the difference.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
