I can do this...

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Cat4554

I do not want to speak for Alb, who btw I have a ton of respect for...but I do not think that the intent was to tell you that you should not be on this forum.

Thanks Eric, and yes, you are correct. It was certainly not my intention to give that impression. Everyone is welcome on this forum. HOWEVER, I will say that the purpose of this forum is to gather individuals together that have similar situations and want to learn to deal with their unfortunate situation in a similar way. I've been to other forums where I've found the general demeanor to be very negative. I find this DB forum to be a positive place where people can feel comfortable venting about their issues. But along with the venting comes the growth and learning about OURSELVES.
Cat, that is why I recommended going through the resources and learning about how to truly find yourself amidst all the pain and hurt that you're feeling. If you've decided you are done with the M and want to move on, that is fine. That is a decision only you can make. But unless you truly look at yourself honestly and evaluate what role YOU had to play with the problems in the M, you may soon find yourself unhappy again. That is why the focus needs to not be on our spouses, but on ourselves.

My apologies IB for the hijack! Cat, we can certainly continue this conversation if you'd like, on your thread.