Everyone needs to do what they need to do Cat, but I completely disagree with this approach. If you are looking to make sure your H doesn't come back or if you don't want him back, this is a good approach. I'm assuming you want to repair your marriage or you would not be on this forum. Actions like that do nothing but make waves and places your mutual family and friends in an awkward situation. Perhaps you feel your H deserves to be demeaned to all your family and friends. That does not mean it is right to do so. Signing the card from yourself and your son only was probably enough to send the message. If it makes anyone concerned about what the "status" might be, they can call or email. I realize you're new here and would recommend you concentrate on the resources. Talking about your R issues to family and friends such as that (and in such a harsh mannner) is completely against all DB recommendations and (IMHO) for good reason.
Did I say that Irish had to do what I did ? NO. I just stated what I did. Everyone does what works best for them. For me, I am so done with him. I am moving forward. DETACH. That's what he did, that is what I am doing.
You have every right to say what you want and how you handle things, are you telling me that I can't be on this forum because I have a difference of opinion on how I handle things ? HMMMM...
