Am I Being Unfair ?

[misshim]

Thanks Sleeper,

I thought I would be ok after all of this in the past. But I feel like I'm going downhill right along with him. Of course the holidays are harder. XH does pickup our D6 from school, 3 days a week and every other weekend but he averages just 6 hours on the weekdays with her. Then brings her back to me.

I am in a tough financial spot right now. And with the game playing of him taking me back to court, I just can't seem to pick myself up and get out of the slump.

I keep telling myself to get a 2nd job at night. But then I want to be at home with my D to put her to bed. Makes no sense to work for a few hours and pay a babysitter and I don't get alot of time with her as it is because she goes to bed early.

Why does he go on and on that it's unfair as to what I'm doing to him (the original divorce agreement) He was the one that chose all of it. My L only put it into better writting. My L said that in order for him to get all of the changes approved, he has to show a substantial change of circumstance or income. But yet he is smokin mad that my L asked him for his financials. I really don't want to financially ruin him, but I have a house to take care of and alot of bills. He moved back with mom and dad and plays and parties.

I've talked and spread the word in my small town that I have a brand new barn to rent out and 10 aces besides. But times are tough for everyone.

I even took on a roomate but he has to leave, he wants more from me that I can't give him and he hates my X and his family, from along time ago. My roomates contribution was very small because he was injured, and livs his life in a wheelchair. But that's a story in itself.

I know I need to kick myself in the rear end to get out of this slump. I stopped posting here in 2009, after my divorce. Yet I have been reading alot of postings from others ever since that nasty day. Yet I'm just as confused.

If I have to move back to my home town, then he would have to drive alot just to see his D for 2 hours max every other day. He just doesn't think things through. I could save him so much money with the daycare & school fees because I planned it all out. Do I tell him how he could save or let him just wander through?

During our marriage he was looking for a mom to take care of everything for him. That's why he moved back to his parents because she is the one to take care of our D6 while he naps on couch or showers. Should I offer him the way to save or let him figure it out on his own? I have already given him the calender for December so he knows whats going on with our D6 for singing at sunday school and school. I like to have things ironed out otherwise our D6 suffers, not him.

My mind is going in circles, I just don't know what I'm doing any more. Some days he cares, other days he could care less about anything or anyone.