I think its over help pls

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Should I directly ask my W if she wants to work on saving this M?

Based on what you have posted, no.

She says she wants out, wants nothing. You heard that, I know, because you wrote it.

If you keep coming back with "Do you want to save this marriage?", it's going to sound a lot like, "Wah, wah, wah, wah, how you feel is not important to me, wah, wah, wah, wah".

This should be an easy seperation if it comes to that--she doesn't want anything yet. That part of it I would work out ASAP if she moves out. You'll have a nice littel contract that she gets what she took when she left".

She may need to go out on her own, so prepare yourself for that. I can guarantee that as long as you are fighting her (and that's what you are doing when you refuse to believe what she is telling you when she says how she feels), things are not going to get better.