I read your post and my story is so similar to yours. I also have 2 young children...2 and 1. H left 5 months ago, I kicked him out when I discovered OW. He moved in with his parents. I feel completely desperate to get him back but have no idea how to do it. Its very hard to do some of the things they recommend on here with young kids...my life is the kids and they are practically babies so they need me home with them. I also lost myself completely in my marriage and especially in motherhood. I did very little for myself for a long time, which made me resentful towards him and so I was always nagging him. Now I see how I could've handled it sooooo much better, which just really sucks because it feels like its too late.
I really want to get him to go to counseling, we actually have an appointment next week but he says he won't go. How can I fix anything if he won't even try? Some days he won't even talk to me on the phone or text, which makes me get even crazier and call a ton of times. I just feel like if I could just talk to him and get through to him, he'd change his mind.
I'm sorry that I have absolutely no good advice for you. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
