When Truegritter says listen, just listen! Try not to say a word. Nod your head, look her in the eyes.
If she's crazy, and you respond, it will be a crazy conversation. Just tell yourself that it is like you are talking to someone who is sick!
If she tells you she wants to file, and demands you respond, Just tell her: I'm sorry you feel that way, I do not agree with you for the childrens sake, but do not show any anger, do not incite her to get angry, and do not overexplain! When I tried to talk to my H and make him see logic we ended up getting all twisted up, and even he himself realized that we talked ourselves into a worse situation.
You yourself notice that any attempt at conversation makes things worse, so do not attempt, do not initiate! I did that, right now I am in that phase again, as he is depressed and tends to snap at me when I ask for anything. Thet see any kind of conversation as being imposing, thats why, or being controlling. So back off, BIG TIME!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
