Talk me out of it!

[DoneAfter10]

John--I'm trying to limit my contact with him, but at the advice of my coach--increasing it some by just telling him something funny that I normally would. She advised me that if he didn't respond to it--then not to do it again, but if he did then keep doing small things like that here and there. However, most of the contact I have with him is in regards to the baby. He is no longer cold to me like he was while he was still at home and for the first couple of weeks/month of the seperation. he went from cold, to quiet and guarded, to now more open and upbeat. He's talkign to me more now than he has in a long time. It isn't about R stuff, just things he's doing with his life. He never asks me about me--I'm sure b/c he knows that my life hasn't changed much b/c I'm the one left with all the responsibility of caring for the baby and the house and what not. I have been going out more with friends, but I feel so guilty about leaving my baby when I don't see her during the day b/c of work. I hate passing her off on other ppl during the weekend. I don't know if he misses me at all. I don't think so. If he does, he doesn't verbalize it. He acts as if he is happy with his decision to D and is fine being without me. I'm miserable without him, but I'm getting used to him not being there. It still isn't easy, but it's better than it was. He doesn't have t miss me, though, b/c he has never been alone during this. He's stayed with his buddy, who is single. I'm sure he's still involved with the OW. So, he has no concept of lonely at this point. He gets to see the baby, so he misses her, but the longer he is away from her the easier it will get. I just don't know if what I am doing is making any difference for our R. Sometimes I think so and other times I don't. So I just don't know....