How do you share information of new "status" in Christmas cards/newsletters, etc. We always sent one out and we have a lot of people out of town who do not know.
For me having such a young child and not having even been served divorce papers, I am being pretty conservative. Holiday cards don’t really seem like the right place to make this announcement to me, but that is just my opinion.
D3 is actually doing all the 'work' and carefully signing her own name. I will probably sign my name too, but its not such a neat trick as it is for a 3 year old. I plan to give H the opportunity to sign any cards he wants to. I won't mail them late if he fails to do it though. I also am not sending cards to 'just his' friends. That just seems pushy to me, and H never really cared about sending cards to them either.
Three things keep me from announcing anything in my cards right now. First is that regardless of my R with my H, he is still my little girl's daddy so I will treat him with respect. He will always be central to her family, even if he is not central to mine.
Second, those who I want to know have been told or will be told individually. If my only contact is a holiday card, then to me they are not close enough to share such a difficult part of my life.
Third, I have not shut the door on my H returning home. I am moving on and detaching, but I am keeping my ‘options’ open. Nothing is final yet.
