If you ask me I think it’s a mistake for you to wait on your wife like you’re doing. Not that I blame you I know exactly how you feel; and I need to kind of force myself to pick up the phone and ask someone out on a date; it’s not like it use to be when I was younger and couldn’t wait to get a girls number and call her.
Forget about her thinking you don’t listen to her; its really more about you and you being happy. When you don’t reconcile with your wife; you going to be even angrier at the time you wasted waiting for her; and the time you need to make up in the awkward phase I am in now. You also need the self esteem boost that goes along with entraining a lady friend. I think that up lift in attitude will do more to save your marriage than a gesture of faithfulness that your wife really can’t see. You don’t need to sleep with these women if you don’t want; so you can still hold on to a level of your faithfulness.
Also if you do reconcile with your wife and she has had another man or been on dates; while you haven’t there will be a level on animosity between you. And maybe you will start to wonder what it would have been like to have looked around during your brake, leading to you maybe staying, even mentally, in the future when you should be in a newly recommitted relationship with your wife.
And don’t worry about your wife being with another man; two outcomes can happen: 1) she doesn’t come back to you and so it really doesn’t matter. 2) She does come back to you, and what that would mean is that you’re the better guy, you’re the winner and you can puff your chest out about it. You said your wife was your high school love, so maybe you didn’t experience the thrill of chasing a girl even when other guys liked her too. And when you got the girl you could sit proud as the king over all others. Well you have that chance now; but you’re not going to win by sitting in your room by yourself; you got to get out their; maybe make your wife a little jealous. Show her that you are fun to be around and if she doesn’t act fast she might loss you forever.
