I sent out my Christmas cards. I signed only my name and my sons. Then for those who didn't know, I just wrote a small note stating that my H and I are separated. He turned out to be a man that would hurt me more than I could ever imagine. He broke up our family and caused me to be on medication. Please understand and keep us in your prayers so we can heal.
I never said he cheated. Let them read between the lines.
Everyone needs to do what they need to do Cat, but I completely disagree with this approach. If you are looking to make sure your H doesn't come back or if you don't want him back, this is a good approach. I'm assuming you want to repair your marriage or you would not be on this forum. Actions like that do nothing but make waves and places your mutual family and friends in an awkward situation. Perhaps you feel your H deserves to be demeaned to all your family and friends. That does not mean it is right to do so. Signing the card from yourself and your son only was probably enough to send the message. If it makes anyone concerned about what the "status" might be, they can call or email. I realize you're new here and would recommend you concentrate on the resources. Talking about your R issues to family and friends such as that (and in such a harsh mannner) is completely against all DB recommendations and (IMHO) for good reason.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
