Volunteering: I have changed in the 16 years I have known her, but lack of volunteer work is what I regret most that I did before her. Looking primarily at soup kitchens and animal shelters once a week.
New friends/social interaction: because of relocation and travel to school, I have not had time to work on this yet. I have over the years tended to rely on her for making friends and that needs to change.
Jobs: She needs to look up to me and the income flip was a bad idea. As a performer I could support her again and that was a potential path before the PA. It still is. Also, I have to prepare for the worst. As a performing artist I have to look for professional and academic positions with some dispassion for exact location.
Finally... She wants her space. Aforementioned confidant, who wants to save the marriage and is essentially a spy, thought I should leave for Christmas since she has to work DB coach disagreed and I am staying. Still, I need to GAL. My own.
