Uh, why re-read a book that can only bring you more pain? I don't get it. Hey, how about reading "Healing Is A Choice", something that might actually help you! Yes, divorce hurts the kids but YOU don't have a choice, CTH. What is is and carrying on about how much you don't like it, how bad it is for the kids ain't gonna change it. My wife and I have been separated for over three years now. Last year my D's Gymnastics Head Coach took me aside and said that she was just so amazed at how well adjusted and happy both my girls were and how no one would ever guess their parents were separated. She wanted to ask "how do you do it?" I explained that my wife and I decided when we separated to put aside our issues and make the kids a priority and that's what we did. Our kids are thriving despite what happened to our family. Both are doing well in school, the oldest is getting marks int he high 90's and the youngest is competing at the provincial level in gymnastics. They are happy kids. Sure, sometimes they say they miss when we were all together as a family and I say "so do I" and we move on. If they didn't say that sometimes I'd worry! You can give all this to your kids too CTH but you've gotta put aside your issues about the situation and be for your kids. It's that simple, it really is. If you don't, they will indeed suffer more than they need to.
