CityGirl has a great perspective but she uses the words 'abusive' and 'ONLY' a lot in a several scenarios that are exxagerated.
CityGirl--you do have a great heart and a perspective that is just wonderful for Mystik. But abusive IS exxagerated here. And 'ONLY' is misplaced and is incorrect. You may have experience, but the experts for this place are the DB Coaches and Michele.
That does not discount your Point of View. You have a wonderful point and perspective. And it is helpful for Mystik. Please keep giving her the support.