She Wants to Come Back!

[sinclair]

Thank you, SDFoundGirl, for such a thoughtful response.

Where can I get more info on "detachment?" It gets discussed a lot on this board, but it's still a vague term to me. If I'm going to be doing it for years, I need to know more about it.

Several members had encouraged me to set my boundaries early. I've done that already. The MC is on my to do list; we had one, but she is now my wife's IC.

I'm talking about those essential things for your M to work. For me it was severing contact with OW and speaking up about his needs.

Those are the two issues that come to mind for me as well. No contact with OM will be immediate and permanent or there is no point in moving forward. We can work on communication over time.