Can't Believe It Happened When It Did!!!

[Sad_but_happy]

OK, lots has happened just today... Thanks for all that are helping me on this journey.

MrBond, I tried to be enigmatic last Saturday. Went out for 3 hours and she stated, "if you're seeing someone else, then I need to know so I can do the same." I actually went to the movies. Was actually fun going alone. I did ask W tonight if she was still in contact with OM. She swore on our children that she is not.

Bworl, I know that she has done lots of damage in this relationship. She would not provind me with my LL and at times put me down. Also, nothing was ever good enough. She has a big home, designer cloths, more then 10 Coach bags, Gucci, etc. And even with all this she would say that I, "don't make that much money" and point out what all her friends have. So yea she did a lot of damage too. I would come home all excited to see her even after 15 years together and she would say, "I didn't miss you". So She is to blame too.

But someone on this board said something I will never forget. They said, "the person that cares the least has the most control." Truer words were never spoken.

Now to todays events...

1. I came home after IC and my W and I spoke. She said that it would take time for us to get our feelings back and we need to go slow. I validated and agreed. She then said that I hurt her deeply every time I told her that we are "different people" and that we were "married to young". I told her that I was wrong to say that and told her I would never say again. I then shared with her how she hurt me and she agreed she was wrong. So I thing thats good communication.

2. When I went upstairs to change she was wearing some tight Hello Kitty boy shorts (underware). Needless to say thay were very tight. She said, "how do they look" and I said very nice. I wount tell you the outline I saw but I think you can fill in the blanks... Tease? Test?

3. I was ironing my shirts and she asked if I would help her out and do her pants as well which I did. Test? Taking advantage of me?

4. I told her at dinner that I couldn't find my good watch. When I came upstairs it was on my bed. Seems like a nice gesture.

What do you all make of these things? As always I was pleasent and kind and up beat when I got home.