Possibly the worst day of my life.

[Bworl]

Well, clearly that didn't work out too well for the two of you.


I guess I would still say that respect is respect. The house belongs to the TWO of you, not to outside parties. I cannot think of a situation that would make me feel ok about coming home, even for only 2 days in every 2 weeks, and finding another man's belongings in the home I am helping to pay for.


I do get the controlling aspect of this issue. But the counterbalance to not wanting to appear like it's "your way or the highway" is that her allowing this to happen is incredibly disrespectful to you, whether she considers you still married or not.


If a friend borrowed my car, knowing that I don't allow cigarette smoke, then smoked a pack or two in it while using it, that would be disrespectful and we would have to settle the issue.



Perhaps a bad analogy, but you have to find a way to stand up for yourself and at the same time not feed her impression of you as a controller.



And it might not be a bad idea to renege on the swinging idea should the topic arise.



Blessings,

Bill