Here is something I am not proud of admitting…we got into swinging about 2 years ago after me pushing for it for awhile. She saw this as one last thing she could try to make me happy but she started to have an emotional affair with one guy and possibly another. She was swinging by herself most of the time even though I told her I wanted to do it together, i.e. we’re both in the room for a threesome or foursome but that rarely happened. She didn’t see the emotional side as being cheating and I became a huge snooper and trust was shot on both sides.
The house is a shared residence and right now we are both still paying for it. She has talked about moving out and getting rid of the animals if she needs to (which is huge b/c she is an animal lover and these are her kids) but I would be at the house at most 2 days every 2 weeks. Her mother told me she has a storage shed with a lot of her stuff in it and she is packing up some of my stuff. She keeps asking if we should sell the house and I told her once that I don’t want to.
She has complained that everything always had to be my way and nothing she ever did was good enough. I really don’t want to lose my pets either so I haven’t wanted her to move out and get rid of them since I can’t have them with my job. I figure that if I just start throwing this guys stuff out and show up at the house when I want (which I legally can do) then I might as well sign the papers b/c that is my old behavior.
Thanks for the advice Bill, let me know if this new info changes your thoughts or not.
