I want to make it clear I know DB does not generally advise this; I was not aware of DB at the time. Counseling had failed and I was trying another well known system that did not yield desired results.
Reasons: she told me she did not want me, some behaviors that I was concerned could lead to physical abuse had emerged, and I was concerned that she was only talking to people who had had affairs and in one case, left for TOM. Her family has been magnificent in supporting the marriage while offering their sincere love.
It was a terrible risk and I have paid a price; hoping it all works out.
