I'm not clear on the whole house thing. Is this your SHARED residence, the one you have lived in as a married couple? Is it still YOUR residence? Who is paying for the house?


The very first thing that I would have done, if it had been my house, would have been to remove every single item that belonged to the man who was having an affair with my wife while I was on the road.


I don't particularly care if your anger was an issue in the past or not. You mentioned yourself that being soft is NOT attractive to any woman. Allowing an affair partner to keep his things in YOUR home is way beyond issues of anger.


If she doesn't like that, she needs to get out in her own place. I know you think that is counterproductive, but I guarantee you that she is not going to come back to you when you have been a man who allowed her to do such a thing. And right in front of your face.



Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."