She still is very angry saying she trusts no one and is tired of broken promises, (I haven't broken promises to her) and things not being done that people said they would do she reffered to the past me not getting things done around the house and others not doing things.
is fairly typical I think for a person who is lost and confused, angry (but not quite sure why), and seeking to fill a sense of emptiness they feel inside.
Understand that you've contributed to the fracture in the relationship, but these issues are hers and hers alone. No matter what YOU do, for you, for the home, for her (which is best avoided), YOU will not help her in what she's looking for. And it's not nearly as personal as it feels like it is. Accept that and stop allowing these comments to become truth.
Secondly, THIS
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She said she just wants her own place. While angry she said I can have everything she doesn't want anything.
brings me a huge feeling of deja vu. My ex said almost the same thing, nearly word for word. The fact that she is focused more on getting away than what she takes with her is a clear sign in my opinion that she is deeply confused and almost desperate for a change that might bring peace.
If that's the case, she's going to go eventually, and you really need to let her.
Protect yourself, but do it kindly and with honor. Don't burn bridges with her because of your pain. You still do not know what the future will hold. Some recover, and others wander seemingly forever. There ARE success stories where marriages are eventually reconciled and there is no reason to interepret anything you have shared as indicating that you have no chance.
Stand tall and be her rock, even while she walks away. As lost as she is, she will remember whether you were someone she could count on or not.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
