the further we get away from it I believe the healthier it is for us.
for me i so so so loved the highs.. but i can't live the life of a yo yo anymore.. it isn't healthy.
WOW !!! That sounds like me with my H. You are divorced, am I right ? I haven't made that decision YET. Not in a rush for many reasons. 1st - it is my first fall /winter holidays without him. 2nd - I am trying to live one day at a time, just being patient and lastly, he pays my mortgage, why should I break my piggy bank. Let my savings grow until I REALLY need it plus I haven't even dated anyone thus why the rush for the divorce.
My H left me physically March 20, 2010. Came back to me to reconcile on July 1st, broke up with the OW on July 3rd BUT we had a roller coaster ride since then. The first 3 weeks of November were very good then BAM. I, quite by accident, found him on Plenty of Fish, a dating site, looking for an easy going female to have a long term relationship with. WTF ?!?!
I purposely set up an account to reply to him and guess what he wrote, " this is awkward, I never thought we would be exchanging emails on a site like this." Is he NUTS or what ???
Yesterday he sent me an email asking how I am and do I want seltzer water. R U KIDDING ME is how I responded back to him. No apology, no explanations. He never replied back.
I assume he is going to have a string of women.
I am soooo over this. He is going to be 58 in December, I am 56. My sons' girls told me how my sons are upset, the oldest even cries. They don't say squat to their dad. I assume a guy thing. BUT I know they aren't happy with everything.
I have been following the teachings of Buddhism and it helps me. Those philosophies are basically what my life coach was teaching me but he called it his own program.
According to Buddhism, Life is full of sorrow and sadness, it is how we learn to handle it. No expectations, just make ourselves happy by the small things in life.
My life reminds me of a soap opera and I always HATED them. Funny, how everyone from my sister to my friends tell me what is making my H act this way. My sister, a nurse, keeps saying, " he is a player. He was never committed. Remember how he was when first getting married, he wasn't all that into the idea but I think he felt he should get married.
Maybe she is right. I will never know. Just learn how to accept it.
