I need advice

[Lorie1964]

I have been reading these boards for several weeks now. I have tried to post my own topic before, but it never showed, so I am going to try again.

My sitch is I found out 3 weeks ago I discovered my husband of 20 years has been having an affair for 6 months or more. H moved out to his parents, we have not discussed the A. H has confirmed it, but that is all. He doesn't talk to me, he acts like he is mad at me. We do have a D16 so we do have some interactions. He is actively in A and I have found out that he is looking for a place for he and OW.
I know that I need to act like things are okay with me and I am GAL, it is very hard.

One question I have is that I asked him what he missed the most about our R & he said 'talking, nothing serious, just talking.' So, I am occasionally initiating conversations about his job and how things are going. But it is not frequent, twice in 3 weeks. He hasn't really initiated any with me, so is this okay, I want to do a 180 by talking with him more, but he doesn't ask about me or D16, (I also lost my job one week after H moved out)

Thank you,

Lorie