Your D is sooo young, huh. This must REALLY be tough on you and her. My sons are adults, 27 & 23. I feel lucky that this nightmare is happening now vs. when they were so young. Wish I knew the words to comfort you ZEN. I sure hope you have family & friends as your support group, my friends were THE BEST. I treated them all to dinner on their birthdays to say THANK YOU.
You seem like a wise person who needs to follow her own advice. I know that is easier said than done.
I am getting more & more convinced that my husband has a mental problem that only got worse as he hit his 50's. He always was a Jerkyll / Hyde with me and only me.