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[AntoniaB]

Sounds like you are protecting yourself and standing for your beliefs, so that's great.

As far as counseling, my psychiatrist says that the worst thing to do is push someone into counseling who does not agree to it or who seems antagonistic. It backfires every time, according to her. I don't know how others feel, but that's her opinion. She says it is never one person's right to make another face things they don't want to face in a counseling situation--sure we can ask and suggest, that's fine, but forcing never works. The best thing you can do is go yourself--be a role model--it will help you, and that's the most important thing. Sometimes they go after they see that we benefit from it--my H did not--he still says that's "my" way of handling life but not "his." But my H can be quite stubborn...