-- I said, "I understand how you feel that way, but it's the furthest thing from the truth. I really wish you'd come back to the bed, but do what you have to."
Then I went to bed. --
Wow, that's perfect!
I was texting with my W recently and when I didn't argue certain things with me she got upset and said, "Wow ur good at ignoring the important s$&t". I responded with, "How can I respond? U feel what u feel. I ask about parts that r not clear to me." Maybe not the best but at least I didn't get defensive.
-- In their mind EVERYTHING you do is an attack. Even being nice and acomidating. --
This is something I am trying to remember. I think she wants me to act the way I did before and get angry and defensive and tell her she is wrong so she won't feel bad about what is happening.
