Oh and I failed to say that I have been validating her, helping around the house, with kids, no fighting at all, etc.

I could kick myself for letting this happen. For opening the door for an EA.

M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14
EA - July 2010
NC w/EA - Nov 2010
Piecing - Jan 2011
I ask for div - Jan 2012
Div papers filed - Mar 2012
I move out - July 2012
Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012