Thanks everyone. I did have to contest the D because my Lawyer said it would hold things off for a while until we go to our hearing on the 16th for benefits. H wanted to drop me off of his benefits so I have to take him for spousal and more child support.
This I will get spousal support longer by contesting and also standing for my M. I know it will be up to H in the end, just hoping he gets more time to really think about what he is doing.
When he filed he did it the day after our last hearing (I didn't go, my lawyer went) because H thought he could just drop my benefits and I would have to pay for my own. I can't afford things now, so that is why the hearing is continued.
Plus there is property that needs to be dealt with etc. I don't want the house if we don't reconcile, I can't afford it anymore. Was just holding onto it hoping he was coming home some day. He called and said he was sorry for the benefit thing but I think it's just because of the money he will have to pay, spousal if he does drop me. A close friend of mine thinks that he regrets signing the papers and did it out of anger and his family pushing him to file.
In my state you either have to contest or agree, and I don't agree that our M is irrevabilty broken, as far as M counseling I don't know what to do there either. H doesn't believe in counseling either even though he has been told by 3 different Dr.s that he needs to go and to go on AD's again. So I'm still undecided there.
Just praying that H comes through with his real feelings some day.
