ok, so i just had a 3 hour covnersation with my wife. we talked about everything, and topics such as the OM were hard to listen to, but i did. she admits she has screwed everything up. she loves OM but is not in love with OM. his family hates her, his dad is a big wigg at her job so he knows what she did. She hates herself. She came home cause she thought she could handle her feelings, but then she wasnt ready for it and had to leave.
The OM puts no expectations on her, he is disappointed in her behaviour and activities and she is surprised he lets her stay there. she just doesnt know what to do or where to turn.
NO her mom has disowned her and her entire family knows what is going on. She is just lost.
we talked about us and why she left. she was quite clear, the pressures of my job turned me into an as***(& and it effect my home life and she just couldnt deal with it.
I am happy to say, i listened, validated and and questions so that I could better understand her views, opinions and feelings on our situation. I didnt get angry even when talk was about OM, i stayed calm and spoke to her not at her.
was a good conversation. the only reason it ended was i had a meeting, otherwise we would still be talking.
So i learned alot today, she even had specific events that hurt her and started her to hate the man i was becoming. this was the best conversation i have had with her in a long time.
