You never said she spent the night with him. You said her car was gone.
Then you mention that she said she spent the weekend with friends. Then you said:
It was fairly obvious that she wasn't having the fun filled weekend with OM that I had envisioned. What ever happened between them wasn't good; she was an emotional train wreck. Assuming they had some interactions, not that they spent the weekend together.
The rest has all been speculation, allusion. Not facts talked about on the board.
And maybe she did spend the weekend with him. The point is to be careful not to jump to conclusions, and not to let other people egg you on to do that.
You have an incredible bond with your wife, a very strong friendship, and also the attraction. That love was the glue that brings you close. Boundaries are good. They don't bring people back. Love does.
