I've been separated from WAW for over a month, after having discovered her affair with OM. I've been DBing for the past month and have had good results. Last week she suggested that we start dating again, only to find out later that she spent the following weekend with OM. This prompted a discussion regarding my boundaries: that I could not date her if she was dating OM and that her dishonesty was harming our friendship. The next morning before her meeting with her IC, she spent about an hour venting about the past, trying to justify her position for leaving me. After her meeting with the IC, she goes dark. We've had almost no contact for 4 days.
New development:
This morning, she tells me that she wants to come back. I wasn't prepared for this, so when the phone rang I took the opportunity to cut our conversation short. We were both already running late, so we said our goodbyes and agreed to continue the discussion later.
I'm excited, of course, but we haven't been separated for very long and I'm apprehensive about moving too fast. I don't want us to fall back into our old habits. I know that I have changed, but she hasn't even been trying. I need a plan. This is what I have so far:
1) We stay separated and start dating. 2) She breaks contact with OM. 3) We find a new MC 4) We move slow
