Just catching up on your thread. First, I think you did a fine job setting your boundaries with H. Second, I agree with others here that OW is a band-aid. It sounds as if she is as damaged as he is. It is like, It's better than being alone, at this point.
Thirdly, and to me most importantly, you are detaching yourself completely from H. That is very confusing, strange, and hurtful to your own psyche. It's like tearing away a part of yourself. All I can say is it is much more peaceful on the other side. Brighter, full of opportunity, friendship with those that matter, love of family.
As hoaky as this may sound, the old adage, " If you love someone, set them free. If they return, they are yours forever," applies here, but I'd like to add a line of my own. If they return and you don't want them, call the police. LOL It may very well happen that way, Irish. The future is not ours to see. (Now I'm into Doris Day lyrics)
It is a painful journey and I completely understand your pain and confusion right now. But, assuming you are having the same experience I just had, it is well worth it coming out the other side. ((HUGS))
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
